Friday, September 5, 2014

Live Your Life for Others

 I wanted to make clear that I was not suggesting in my previous post that all women jump up and go find an 8-5 job. I am grateful that God has enlarged my understanding to see that work can be a way to serve, and many women may be called on to do it in the future. And that all of us, regardless of our work status, will be called on to serve Him in some capacity that (I believe) will be in addition to family and church responsibilities. As the Lord hastens his work, we will be asked to do more and contribute in ways that might not be traditional or comfortable to us.




I have spent weeks pouring over the whys in my life. Why am I supposed to go to school? Is it going to make me happier, more fulfilled? Am I failing here at home and this is Heavenly Father's way of gently guiding me to improve? Do I need an "outlet" and I just never realized it?  You think if you get "called" to do something, you're going to eventually be the President of the United States or something. But in reality is the measly job I may someday have really going to make a difference? What is the point? Why strain your family? Why me? Why now? Why my talents? Why my family? My kids? Me, me, me, me, me.


For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. Matthew 16:25

Happiness is interesting because we think we need to find it. And so we do everything we can to create the conditions for it to thrive. Build our dream house, fill our home with eye-catching "stuff," make to-do lists and goals and check them off. Live the dream. Watch your kids excel. This is happiness, this is fulfillment, we tell ourselves. Living a rich, happy, full, busy life. Busy with us, busy with our own happiness.



For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.

Life is about giving of yourself. And God has a specific way he wants all of us to "lose ourselves." The very nature of losing yourself is a process that involves being uncomfortable and out of your element. This means that it might not be in the way you are most talented. If it's a calling in life, how you serve is not your decision. In our church, people are not usually given assignments they have already mastered. 


But in our world, we are told the exact opposite. Find what makes you happy, and do it. A busy life is a fulfilling one. If you're going to serve others, it's most likely a checklist item on a list of "things to do that make me look awesome" nestled in there with "running marathons" and "traveling the world." 


For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. 

I'm going to stop asking "Why me?" in my life and instead give myself to Him. I'm going to listen, really listen, and live. Live a path that is uniquely mine, but not actually about me at all.

Happiness and fulfillment are natural consequences of fulfilling your calling in life. Unfortunately if you never reach for it, you have no idea what real happiness tastes like. I've tasted it and I want it to envelope my whole life. My hope is that you will so strive too.

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