Sunday, May 12, 2013

My Mother-in-law

Two years ago I wrote all about my mother's redeeming qualities. Now I haven't known my mother-in-law for nearly as long, but I thought it only appropriate that I write a post about a few of her admirable attributes that I have noticed in our few short years of marriage.

I was afraid to write this post because I thought it would appear like I was comparing the two. It's dangerous when you write a list because then one can say, "Well that's not on my list" or say "I'll never be able to be that." But one thing I've learned from being married to Ben is that we are not all the same. We do not all have the same strengths. But we DO all have strengths. And those strengths are not meant to be all the same. There's no "one size fits all" or "all perfect people respond in this way." We should celebrate our differences and our different strengths.

Speaking of strengths, I wanted to point out my mother-in-law's.

I really should get a more recent picture. This is Cheyenne circa May 2011.

She has shown me how work is joy. There was no sermon, just her gentle, constant work and her attitude towards it.

She is incredibly kind and giving. She would give away all that she has if she could. She is constantly thinking of the other person's comfort. It's not because she thinks that what she "should" do, it's because that what she IS. She epitomizes kindness and comfort.

She's an amazing teacher. She used to teach school, but now she teaches her grandchildren. I've never seen her in the school setting but I can just imagine her. Most recently she was a reading aide, and when she retired she sent us a bunch of the books she would read with her students. As I looked through the books I could hear her reading to some child, sharing a special time. Time is of no consequence to her when she is helping someone. She could sit there for hours playing with the children, being in their world, loving them. Oh how lucky, the child probably thought, are her grandchildren. I would love to have a grandma like her. 

And that child is right. Her grandchildren are lucky. And so is her daughter-in-law.

Mother's Day is a perfect day to forget yourself. I love this post that has really put Mother's Day in perspective for me.


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